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You write like taking medications for your ADD is an all or nothing proposition. Some folks take their medications only when they need to while others are like me and take the medications every day While still other are able to make the necessary life modifications with out any medications at all. We are all different so what works for me may or may not work for you. I respect people's diversity. There is a misnomer in your post I want to...

Quote: Originally Posted by meadd823 There is a misnomer in your post I want to correct though – I do not take my medications to “feel normal” – I do not feel my medications at all haven’t in years. Bearing in mind that I define normal as 'not unique' or 'restricted in my creative capacity through artificial rules', I will stick by it. I have means and ways of dealing with the bad things and appreciate the good...

Just wondering about other peoples views. In my ongoing process of understanding and coping with my ADHD I have noticed a pattern I have. Before and after diagnosis/meds, I have a really hard time recognizing passive/aggressive type people. I currently HAVE to deal with some one like this. After a conversation with this person, I often feel "slapped in the face". It takes me a couple of days to understand what happened. This person...

There is nothing wrong or shameful about being subtle....be proud....this planet could use a little more subtle. (note to self...be more subtle ) I am not a shrink....but just like you when I was young...through High School, I was outgoing, friendly, a little self conscious sure, but overall above average confident. When I went off to college and realized I had to start all over and establish myself with new people and groups is when my ADD...

well.. i loose interest somewhere betweeen the 2 week to 2 month mark tops. its awful.

I don't have the energy for small talk either. I think this is really difficult for me when I'm meeting new people. With friends I have had for a good amount of time, they understand my distaste for boring, filler small-talk. It makes me anxious because I'm not sure what to say... I'm much more at ease when I'm talking about things I am very interested in. Sitting through talks about politics, the weather, etc. seems...

Thanks for the kind words mead823... I'm glad you wont set me on fire! Posting this is something I've wanted to do... Just to admit my flaws in a way... I do have a therapist I see, however it is tough to talk to her about that kind of situation (she's known me since i was very young). I do agree in away with the self worth as well... I probably dont believe I am worthy of a true relationship... but also I will say that when I...

My heart goes out to you! I have the same feelings about making friends, I too have trouble like I can be myself a lot of the time and often feel like I'm on stage so to speak and the worst part is that I sometimes feel like that around other ADDers and the like. As a child I was always aware of my 'difference' and alternated between being extroverted (only with those I knew well or/and felt comfortable with) and being a total...

Quote: ust wondering about other peoples views. In my ongoing process of understanding and coping with my ADHD I have noticed a pattern I have. Before and after diagnosis/meds, I have a really hard time recognizing passive/aggressive type people. I currently HAVE to deal with some one like this. After a conversation with this person, I often feel "slapped in the face". It takes me a couple of days to understand what happened. This...

Read or listen to a book together about ADD. There are many good ones, but I always recommend Driven To Distraction. My wife and I listened to that on mp3 format together and it helped us both see what was really going on, and that I wasn't alone. That way he can see that there are other people just like you. He could see that by coming here as well. He needs to want to see ADD as a legitimate disorder and to learn about why you do what...